Controversial Opinion: I do get attached as a therapist.
We are supposed to get attached.
Not in a way that becomes enmeshment, rescuing or saviourism, but in a way that is rooted in safety, genuine care and compassion.
I could have all the skills in CBT, or the best therapeutic modality, but this doesn’t support lasting change.
The relationship does.
Let the work affect you.
Let yourself feel.
You will be better off for it.
Not All Captivity Is Physical - Reflections on Domestic Violence
One of the most common questions asked about domestic violence is, “Why didn’t they just leave?” This question often overlooks the complex dynamics that keep people trapped. Captivity is not always physical. It can be psychological, emotional, social, economic, and systemic. Understanding these dynamics can help us move from blame to understanding and recognise coercive control for what it is.
How do we actually love ourselves? (When it has never been easy).
How do we actually love ourselves? Self-love isn’t a switch to flick on, but a compassionate practice rooted in understanding self-abandonment and learning to come back to yourself.
Why people are turning to Chat GPT for emotional support
ChatGPT is not going anywhere. Rather than fear-mongering, this piece explores the deeper reasons people are turning to AI for emotional support, self-understanding, and relief from loneliness, and why shame will not reduce its use.